Boy do I know that feeling. I have two sons. After my husband died just over two years ago, my younger son started treating me disrespectfully. He told me not to come to my granddaughter's wedding as I was not welcome there. He told me I was not welcome in their home and would never be invited to go there anymore. We had to postpone the funeral due to Covid. When we could finally lay him to rest, they all came to my state but were cold to me. When I asked my son if he was coming to drive me and his father's ashes to the cemetery he said I would have to find my own way. Finally communications broke down completely. On the other hand,my older son was caring and supporting. I was in the midst of therapy and had a diagnosis of PTSD. He asked me about this and was horrified when I told him the story of the abuse I had suffered as a child. He has grown closer since then. But I decided I was not going to take this lying down. My husband and I had a trust. I had a conference with my attorney and bottom line is that all the assets over which I have control will go to my older son. The younger one has been replaced as alternate trustee. I am already 89 so not so many years to go. Someone is going to be surprised and not happy when that happens. I also gave instructions that he not be notified of my death or subsequent burial. If he wants/wanted to bash me like that he has no right.

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