You came to the right place! On a side note- I thought maybe you may find this thread interesting - the topic is about moderation and modification and how it can help chronic pain with tips straight out of Mayo Clinic's Pain Rehab occupational therapy portion. Conversation follows with members experiences and thoughts. Maybe you'll pick up a helpful tip or two along the way:
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/moderation-and-modification-how-can-you-benefit/
With regard to feeling alone, you are certainly not alone. As you read through this thread you will find you are in good company and Connect is a positive, encouraging, safe space. Realizing that you need support was a very good step in the right direction. It's never too late to make small changes one step at a time. So easily chronic pain and loneliness can lead to feelings of loss of self-worth. Do you have any furry companions for company or special people that you like to check in with?