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Local, in-person stroke support group participation?
Stroke & Cerebrovascular Diseases | Last Active: Oct 2, 2023 | Replies (11)Comment receiving replies
It is good to hear you appreciate your wife. My husband's doctors have told him he wouldn't have recovered like he did without me pushing him and them to help him get better. Now he just is immensely angry most of the time and directs it at me. Not sure where that will end up going but makes it very hard to continue to care joyfully. Just wish I knew the secret to remove his anger and non-acceptance that he had a stroke and it was no one's fault per se. Thanks for responding, I will try to check out the you tube.
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I am so very sorry that your husband is struggling and taking it out on you. That must make a difficult job even much more so.
One thing that helped me was maintaining a gratitude mindset. When I was first admitted to the hospital, they told me up-front, "You don't know it now, but you're a very lucky man. You can still speak, remember, and think."
Ever since, I keep focused on the positives: I'm basically okay, I just can't move well. I have a home; a wife who loves me; I am getting better, if very slowly. Things could be so much worse. I bet half the population of the planet would trade places with me in a heartbeat.
I have many bad days, to be sure -- I am in constant pain, and sleep very poorly -- but I try not to let that keep me down. And while I sometimes snap at my wife, I don't make a habit of it. I know my stroke is not her fault, and without her, I'd be lost.
Come Christmas, it'll be five years since the stroke. It's a drag being disabled, but I'm still hanging on.
Your family is in my prayers. I wish you well.