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Pain and Loss of Self Worth

Chronic Pain | Last Active: Dec 18, 2023 | Replies (142)

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@kendallchase

When I tried to express my feelings to my Pain Management doctor (no quality of life, controlled by pain and weakness, etc) she said I should find Jesus and get over my victim complex.
Not sure what to think of this.

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She obviously has no understanding of your suffering and how it's so draining.
Never thought I'd be in this situation either.Was so fit and active.At home with so much pain from Undiagnosed Conns disease. Dr thinks neuropathy from long standing medical problems.
I do emphasise with your situation.
Bored if I sit around, in pain if I try to do anything even taking a shower exhausts me.
Praying for a cure for all of us.

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It seems when Doctors have no solution they sometimes say dumb things. After expressing how depressing my diagnosis of severe lumbar arthritis and DDD which was causing PN, my neurologist said “oooh my back hurts”, in a snarky way as I was walking out. Obviously no compassion and no solution which I assume reflects on medicine and in particular his inability to help. Yes I need to accept that he has nothing to offer and it is entirely up to me to find a way to live with my age related maladies but still…. I have to admit I wouldn’t be any better at his job and would probably get tired of hearing people express their feelings about painful conditions. But it is their freaking job! As far as the Christian doctor goes, of all people she should have compassion. If she gave you her advice in a loving way then that is one thing but if not: she was a “Clanging Cymbal” (Bible) There are a lot of Christians that have not read the instruction manual and are pretty off base.

I have to get over the victim mentality everyday when I wake up to back twinges, pain, buzzing numb legs and tinnitus ringing in my head. I have come to the conclusion that doctors prescribe Drugs and Surgery both of which are great if you are going to die but nothing much for quality of life relating to pain available. Physical therapy, losing weight, at least is a practical approach for some, but I’m having a hard time doing it.

in reply to @kendallchase I can totally relate. I had a tele-therapist for a few months last Spring, and she turned every one of our sessions into some kind of Bible study, and even went as far as sending me religious materials in the mail: some kind of olive oil mixture that she and her husband made in their garage that I could use to anoint myself. Suffice to say that my insurance company filed a grievance against her and the company she worked for.