Thank you for sharing your experience, I am sorry that you 'lost connection' with your family as a result. The sad thing is, my spouse is historically a kind, friendly, outgoing person. I honestly think my letting him know I wished to separate moved him to a place of grieving... but that has since led to a lot of blaming, I am the one who needs help, he does not have a problem and this is all my fault. I am running out of ability to care for him and need to preserve my strength for the kids and I. He's very manipulative, has an answer for everything and constantly leads me to wonder where "I" have gone wrong. I cannot help someone who does not think they need help.