Relationships: How do you form and maintain them when ill?

I love questions, both asking them and answering them. You never have to worry that I mind being asked something. I don't understand a lot of social cues and why and how some things are offensive. So if you have questions, ask away.
I am female, a 29 year old female named Tabitha.

True, a relationship that isn't a two-way street ends up causing pain and distress.
I am ill and I have made peace with my mortality. My issue is not particularly fear, I just do not want to waste time and energy on the wrong people, I know I don't have forever to dispense freely.
You will probably regret that offer on the days when I am very chatty, but yes. I will take you up on that Judith. Thanks

Safe spaces and unhampered expression are grossly undervalued. That's great.
What if your husband wanted to vent about you? What would happen in that case?
I cook like that. And I cook in bulk so I can pack the rest in the freezer and heat it up later.

Hi. I have met one of my best friends of Plenty of Fish years ago. He was like a member of our family and we miss him. I do NOT EHarmony...to me it was a sham and it was too much work and too personal.

Yep, we must pour out of our cups for others but also make sure our cups are being poured into.
That is full-fledged socialising, nice.
Would it help if the dinner was brought to you?
Thank you, take care as well.

That is true. One thought: If you study in a Foreign country and learn the language you may want to stay in that country. If I were younger I would get the "H" out of this one. The Government (local and Federal) make me sick. Almost moved to Costa Rica until I dug deeper and found the unpleasantness and problems of living there.

I can assure you that most people, expecially Americans, do not make the most out of their lives and take a leap of faith. Sounds as though you are willing to do that. Good for you.

Portugal is safe as is Panama I believe. My favorite is, of course, France with Italy being second.

Don't wait too long or it will be too late.

Good luck where ever you ago. You sound young.

It sounds as though you have a plan with this friend of yours after you visit your family in Africa. My first husband was from JoBerg...very English he was.

A small village in France was about 1 km from my home sur la colene (sp?). Name if Le Val. Small, cozy and everyone knows everyone else. Market every weekend. Nearest small city is Brignoles - both in the department in the Var. I loved it there and had more French friends that I now have in the States.

All the best with your studies.

@buzz23 Tabitha, I have learned, the hard way like so many of us here, that I need to honor myself, and not "just go along with it" because that is what someone else wants. Nothing worse than how we can beat ourselves up, in my book. Like you, I am very much an introvert, and sometimes [okay, often!] miss the social cues, and that is from being an introvert and also on the autism spectrum with Aspergers Syndrome.

Having lupus, plus other health concerns to deal with on a daily basis, has not been easy for others to understand that some days are better than others, and what my energy level will be is a toss up. Once a week I take 12 mg of dexamethasone as part of my cancer treatment. I know that day, towards the afternoon, and into the next day, my energy level will be "up" so I plan for activities that might not get accomplished otherwise. A group of "friends" eventually excluded me, because I had to back out of plans. Now I have others in place who accept me for what I can do, when I can do it, and we are finding out that I am able to actually do more because they support me! Isn't that cool.
Ginger

Hi--glad to answer. My cancer situation is confusing. I have a rare neuroendocrine tumor in my breast. There is no treatment apart from usual breast cancer protocols. I've had a lumpectomy, radiation, and am on an AI. There are no stats for if any of this works for a NET. I turned down chemo as I have progressing kidney disease, diabetes, and am pulmonary impaired. My oncologist told me in October 2022 that my life expectancy was 1-2 years. I think partially she was pushing the chemo, but the regimen didn't have a great success rate with the ordinary breast cancer aspects and no info at all for NETS. Also, my nephrologist wasn't going to sign off on it! Due to this--and long held philosophical beliefs--I'm not "fighting" the cancer aggressively. Right now, my quality of life is quite good but my prognosis poor. The cancer is either stage 2 or 3--I've been told both. I've had four different pathology reports with 3 different labels. My oncologist is currently going with what Mayo said. I could go for fancier care, but have consulted with two different NET specialists at different medical centers. One refused to see me at all because of the location of the NET. Basically I'm referred to breast surgeons and oncologists who have never even seen this kind of tumor. I have totally made peace with the situation--but actually I was at peace with my own mortality and failing health well before I got cancer. I've always been questing for meaning and understanding, and have been helped in so many ways--from human relationships to art to religion to just looking within. Strangely, or perhaps not, this period in my life has been rewarding and even fun. Thanks for enquiring and valuing an honest response. Sometimes I find it difficult to be direct--but it is rewarding when I can be. Wishing all the best for you.

Tinder did to me what eHarmony did to you. I've found 2 available apps: International Cupid and Zoosk.
Plenty of Fish isn't available for where I live.