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Pain and Loss of Self Worth

Chronic Pain | Last Active: Dec 18, 2023 | Replies (142)

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@dlydailyhope

I do empathize with you @labgirl! It is not easy to go from a working professional with an active life to one that is very limited. I am struggling like you. I am a 54 year old single parent of a 14 year old son with no family support. I also just recently got laid off along with 5,000 others. I do not know what I am going to do about health coverage or an income so I can provide for my son. The job market is tough and I have held good jobs in the past but my health and chronic pain make it so hard to know what I could actually do now physically. I have been working remotely for 2.5 years and the thought of driving and sitting/standing/walking distances scares me! There is also a lot of discrimination out there hiring anyone over 40 and especially if you don’t look very healthy (me)! I can get very scared and discouraged at times because, like you, I want to do so many things in my mind but my body won’t cooperate. I also can’t stand long at the counter to do dishes or cook/clean like I used to. I am even wondering if I should apply for disability rather than try to find a job with medical benefits. My faith is what helps me stay grounded and I am trying to take one day at a time and be realistic on what I can and cannot do and ask for more help. I need to plan my day when I have the most energy, prioritize what I do and when, and take frequent breaks. Now that I am not working, I really need to focus on self care which I have neglected to my own detriment. I am also going to get involved more at my church so I have an extended support group for me and my son. There is a bible study zoom class that I am signed up in so I can socialize with others without needing to leave my home. You may be able to tutor, mentor or volunteer your time remotely via Zoom/web meetings/making phone calls and leverage your prior experience to help others. Best wishes to you!

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I too live wil pain everyday. I just wanted to tell you to apply to the IRS. I have several family members that work from home for them. Pay is decent and benefits seem to be good too.
Good luck...