I am slowly "winding down" in the amount of physical energy I can devote to pursuits, whether household, leisure or volunteer.

I had a lovely example in my Mom, who went from being the do-everything-for-everyone energizer bunny to being totally cared for over a period of years. She lived her life in "chapters", remembered, and probably missed, each phase (except those years when she had five teenagers at once.) But then she would graciously move on - becoming a widow, selling her home, moving from independent to assisted apartment, giving up her car... Each time, she gave up beloved activities like dancing, traveling, tutoring, entertaining crowds, baking, even walking. But she took on new things listening to music, eating out, playing cards, working puzzles - and she learned to paint at 80.

Now I am working hard to spend more time feeling satisfied with just "being" - enjoying my slightly messier garden rather than weeding it, alternating active days with quiet ones, giving away all the "company" dishes to the next generation, making simple meals instead of big ones...
Sue