My husband passed away
Hello All,
My husband and soulmate of almost 32 years passed away last Thursday evening. He was terminally ill with prostate cancer.
I'm trying to learn to survive, to get "acquainted " with the new situation but l'm millions of miles away yet... I actually haven't started yet...
There are no family or relatives to support me here.
So l'd love to find some company here, people who can relate/understand but who are also willing to be in touch to talk and chat just about anything under the sun. Please refrain from emojis as a reply.
Thank you🙏💐🦉
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Hi. I don’t know of any groups outside the US, but I would suggest you start with your medical team or local clinic. Also, many churches offer grief support and there may be a group in your area.
I would be very cautious about joining a group online unless you can confirm that they are a genuine organization. Unfortunately, there are bad folks out there who target people who are vulnerable and suffering. None of the groups I know in my area charge for their support and they are very conscientious about confidentiality related to names, email addresses, and phone numbers to protect their members.
There may be someone in this Connection group who has a suggestion or an idea of other options.
Give yourself time and grace on this journey. Sending you today’s sunrise 😊.
Hi @bigmaya. Condolences on your loss. For me, listening and reading others' stories of loss has helped. I lost my bride of 56 years September 6, 2022 here at Mayo in Rochester after she gained a couple of months of good life because of Mayo's treatment of lung cancer. I went back to our home in New Mexico and joined a weekly grief support group that helped immensely. AND here I am again in Rochester, this time for me because of Parkinson's. I have found 125 Live here to be immensely helpful: socially, physically, and educationally. I have been to one of the grief support meetings there and it was definitely on target for me. Avoiding isolation and being willing to both listen and to share seem to be the keys for me. 125 Live Grief Support Group
2:30-4pm, 1st and 3rd Thursday. Free and open to the public. If you are in Rochester, it is a good stop.
Peace!
Joe Smithson
Hello Joe,
I'm so sorry to read about your loss and please accept my condolences🙏
I'm glad for you that you found these groups where you can share and talk about your loss and grief. I am sure it's very helpful!! I don't live in the US and these support groups are not available to me. I thank you for writing to me and wish you good health and peace of mind and heart.
I too lost my husband last Thursday..he was my high school sweetheart and were married 44 years. I was hoping for a miracle at Mayo, unfortunately my husband had esophageal cancer and other related medical issues. I am happy to connect with anyone to just talk..it is so tough, and it’s only the beginning..
I feel with you and am so sorry for your loss. My husband passed away from this maledite C on Aug. 17th. I don't live in the US but l'd be happy to connect, to talk, chat. As you wrote, this is just the beginning...🙏💐
My husband died 7/7/23. i am in Rochester and would be available to meet for coffee and chat
@bigmaya- Watching TV is easy for me when I'm really down. Even if your mind wants to grieve 24 hours a day it's not good, breaks are needed. There is much to think about and lots of decisions to make.
My biggest fear has been what will life be like now. Where do I go from here? Will I meet someone new, even at my age? Will I want to meet someone else?
My kitty keeps me warm and I feel that she saved my life. The weight and feel of her soft fur kept some of the pain from surfacing and her cute mews for dinner late in coming showed me that she needed me. But of course, it's not enough.
I can't believe that it will be 5 months Sept. 10th. It doesn't seem possible that he's gone at all, never mind for 5 months.
Merry
Oh, @klur-, it's so hard, isn't it? It's unbelievable. I'm so very sorry for your loss and sorry for his illness. That's a tough one for sure.
Yes, the beginning is full of confusion, numbness, panic, and everything else that you are feeling. If you find it hard to eat at least try and keep yourself hydrated.
Do you have family and friends around you?
Merry
@maryannm- I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I'm in New England. But perhaps others will meet you.
How are you doing? Is there anything particular that you want to ask or talk about?
My husband died from Vascular dementia.
Merry
Would love to connect. How best to do off this site?