I'm sorry to hear about all you have been through. When I read this, I can better appreciate the things my own surgeon has said, that it is important to treat the cancer enough but not over-treat it. (I'm not passing judgment on your providers, just considering it in light of my fears of having been under-treated.) I did not have chemo before surgery - or after. I have not had any radiation. I was fortunate to have a small tumor and no lymph node involvement. I'm assuming that your TNBC was more advanced than mine, but I am regularly struck by how differently oncologists and surgeons view treatment when I read others' stories. There will always be risks, surgery has them, chemo has them, radiation has them, doing nothing has them. While there is a lot of information that can go into calculating the relative risks of each of these choices, in the end, we don't know what will happen until it happens. Many blessings to you as you journey through these hard times.