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@colleenyoung

Hi @emmur16,
With the intent of protecting us, family members can make decisions to withhold information that can leave us feeling isolated and hurt. I'm so glad you found us here on Connect and hope that we can help you feel a little less alone. I'm tagging @ccorrconro and @mswanda as they both know first-hand what it is like to lose a partner and a son.

@emmur16, I wonder whether your son is having the biopsy to test for another medical condition and not because of the seizures.

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On what part of the body is the biopsy being preformed? With my husband it was his lungs to confirm he had Wegeners . As far as my son he had his first seizure at age 11 while he was playing a video game. After that he was good until 2 Yrs later he had another seizure while playing video games again. This one was bad (grandmul). They put him on medication which could also cause seizures even though it was suppose to prevent it. They told him he could not play video games ever. 2 weeks after that he fell in the shower stepping in and out for a new bar of soap. I found him face down in 2 inches of water because the soap covered the drain. He could not be revived. The stress of losing his son my husband developed Wegeners in less than a year. After 4 yrs of suffering with that we got him in remission. 2 yrs after that he was diagnosed with cancer in April and he passed away December 22 of them same year. That was 2008. I was diagnosed with lupus a year before he died . Now I have undifferential connected tissue disease and Sojgrems . Stress can do a lot to your body. I did 2 years of therapy after my son and it helped a lot. After my husband died my insurance did not cover what they called brain disorders which was depression. I have been on medicines for depression and anxiety since. I think every insurance co should be made to cover mental disorders. I have state insurance now and they won't cover it. If you can get therapy please do so. My 31 yr old son turned to herione and is really struggling with it. Which is causing more stress for me because he also has untreated ADHD. Some days I feel it would be easier if I were dead but I also have a 40 and 23 yr old daughters and would never do that to them. My son would probably commit suicide if that was to happen. Life is so hard right now because they are foreclosing on my home because without my husband and sons help I cannot afford the high mortgage for a small crappy house. Cheryl<br />
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Thank you Colleen,
Yes, they are looking for other unresolved illness my son has. He had inept doctors for two years after they treated the seizures so they were controlled more but not his other ailments. Now he has a doctor who found something that caused my son to have a biopsy. As I told Cheryl he had made his funeral arrangements and grudgingly admitted that to me finally.
This was the final blow. He is my baby, my last child and son to be born. I had hoed to not see another of the children die before I went. I had buried another of my sons in 1995. I know that there is nothing to do but indure. Thank you for your message Colleen.the biopsy was on his forearm.