I rant. Breast cancer is not fair! I had just retired!! I had just reconnected with my first love!!! We moved to a beautiful new condo in a vacation paradise!!!! I was diagnosed with cancer! I am a nice person! I volunteer! I rarely curse! My kids tell me I’m a good mom, my grandkids adore me. My body gave me cancer! No fair!! Sucks! Ok thanks for reading, I feel a wee bit better now. Ranting (without hurting another) can let some of the pressure out and make room for more positive thoughts. It’s worth a try

To share a positive experience--I haven't been to the dentist in a year, since my bc diagnosis. How to act? Told both the hygienist and dentist--my time is probably limited but I don't want tooth pain! They were both very kind (young, and startled, and saying--we hope you live a long time). They easily charted a low key approach that would still take care of my teeth. I think it helped that I was direct but even in talking to them. I got what I needed by being honest and they got to act both caring and professional.