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Breast Cancer | Last Active: Mar 24 10:10am | Replies (223)

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And when they ask, I reply « not great » and suddenly there is Silence… I am avoiding people because I don’t want to lie and answer « fine » and at the same time, I don’t want to share with everyone this problem. Others have their own challenges- don’t want to pile on their pain ( sickness/breast cancer, death of loved ones) . I don’t want to hear that it will be ok, It’s not and it won’t be.
I am not saying « why me? » just angry at aging, sickness - not rosy picture.

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I think many of us go through anger, I probably have had more mental exhaustion than anger although there has been a range of emotions over the years.
Truly I think the worst time was waiting for……..everything. Even if if I only waited a few days for a treatment plan or a test result, the waiting is the hardest part. As soon as I started treatments the emotions settled down quite a bit for me. I hope that works the same for you.
Do you have a really good friend who will just let you rant away for a while?

No, not a rosy picture to be aging and facing down a breast cancer diagnosis among other barbs life throws at us.

It can be irritating when health care providers in the oncology setting seem perky and rosy; common courtesy towards strangers has met its challenge in this depressing and dull fog arena. I answer honestly, which varies but I do thank them for asking and also ask how they are doing.

It must be very challenging to face oncology clients everyday and burnout is high in all healthcare settling. As irritating as it can be at times, I am grateful that I am not met with a doom and gloom personality. And I am grateful for their service. It is one of those issues that needs a coping mechanism. Mine is to assume that common courtesy, like elevator talk ( the weather) is maybe the best alternative.

This space, however, is a good place to bring our anger, disappointments, fears and also our good news ( under the circumstances) and joys. We are all in a really tough spot here and ALL emotions are valid and welcome!