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Supporting a depressed spouse.

Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Aug 1, 2023 | Replies (39)
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@brandysparks

These are really good ideas, and thank you for sharing them.

They would work with me, and especially if both of us at some point understood we were fighting this thing together, and that - in the sense of the "subterfuge" effort - that we eventually smiled and agreed we were both in 'on the joke', if you know what I mean...just like you described it.

Having your partner / friend / counselor 'in on it' with you can make ALL the difference - at least it would to me.

Hugs.

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annewoodmayo | @annewoodmayo | Jul 19, 2023

Hey there, Brandysparks!

I'm so glad you like the ice cream idea. 🙂

Being "in" on the joke was just the "sprinkles" on top for me; I would have benefited from the outing even if I never realized my husband only did it for my benefit.

But, I can see how someone might get put off by the trick aspect. I was just grateful for the help.

And I agree that It IS much nicer to have a partner in on the fight! I like that my husband kept up the fight with the ice cream idea when I couldn't do a thing for myself.
I think that was why I wasn't annoyed that he "tricked" me. I guess it wasn't a trick, after all. It was help. (Funny, writing this out has helped clarified my feelings and thoughts!)

Hugs back at cha!

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