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Estrangement Grief: Anyone else going through this?

Loss & Grief | Last Active: Apr 25 12:44pm | Replies (40)

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@jdiaz63

I am also going thru estrangement from my daughter . She's 29 years old living with my ex husband for the last 7 years . I have 2 kids from my marriage 29, 30 . My divorce was bitter and very difficult . My kids were 13 and 14 when i asked for the divorce . While going thru the divorce my ex husband turned my son against me told him a whole bunch of lies which my son believed ( i think at this time ) My son wanted nothing to do with me and i didn't hear from him for 6 years . When my son turned 20 we started talking again and now i can honestly say that we have a loving great relationship and i coulnt be happier . My daughter suffers from anxiety and depression and currently lives with her dad . Until recently we've talked and texted on the phone then all of the sudden she decided that she doesn't want me in her life . It's extremely painful . I cry all the time basically and want to get on with my life but don't know how . For me finding a good therapist has helped but still some days are very difficult. I totally understand what you're going thru . My wish for you is may you find resilience to live a happy life and don't give up . Continued blessings..

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I completely understand your situation. I was an addict (which happened due to self-medicating when my ex took my kids away). I've been sober a little over seven years. My 29 y.o. daughter and I have always been close and I pretty much raised my three grandchildren (while in active addiction). So three years into my recovery, my daughter got pissed about me mentioning her parenting, and I haven't gotten to see or speak to my daughter or my grandchildren in almost five years. I've become a workaholic so I don't have to "feel" the pain because I NEVER want to turn back to self-medicating with drugs. I cry all the time too! My two youngest children were told a bunch of crap and they're now adults but still haven't wanted to see or speak to me either. When I got sober, I poured myself into being a better person (spouse, mother, daughter, grandmother, etc) than I have ever been and some days I feel like why do I even give a shit?! I pray to continue to have hope that things will change but some days are definitely way harder than others!