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Side of bed preference discussion
Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Jul 1, 2023 | Replies (7)Comment receiving replies
@1k194 What a fun discussion! I’m with you, I quite literally do not like waking up on the wrong side of the bed nor sleeping there. 😅
My husband and I have been married 49 years. When we were first set up housekeeping in the early 70s we hadn’t lived together. (His mom wouldn’t even let us go camping alone…but that’s another story 😂) Anyway, we were furnishing our new apartment and I was taking some things into the bedroom. My pending husband was putting things in the little book case on the headboard…gasp! ON MY SIDE!
To be fair, we never discussed which side was whose. But that was one of my first non-compromising moments! That’s My side! My husband can sleep anywhere, anytime but he has learned, (with much reinforcement just short of a cattle prod) that I have a preferred side. Even when we travel, in the hotel room he’ll ask ‘which side do you want?’ and we both sleep comfortably without me sticking my knee in his back. Giggle.
I’m tend to be the mediator, the fixer, the pleaser and relent or acquiesce to the needs of others. But nope, my side of the bed is where I draw the line…my pillow is there!
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You made me laugh! But I’m a light sleeper, and I have to tell you that some of my best laughs (and worries) are when we’re in a hotel or guest room and I see my husband wandering out of bed in the middle of the night going in the opposite direction of the bathroom!
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Lol! Well I’m glad to know I’m not the only one 😅
I always had a twin bed, those pretty much are “middle only beds”. When I was a kid if I had to share with my mom or a sister, I don’t remember ever having a side I preferred.
Lori, my husband and I also had a chaperoned courtship and our first time sleeping in the same bed was on our wedding night. It was at our new home together, and as is my sweet husband’s personality, he asked which side of the bed I wanted. I thought about it a minute…I chose; and that’s been my side ever since.
I’ve tried to analyze why I “have to” have that side…I’m not entirely sure. I know it’s not about the orientation of the room…i.e. who’s closer to the door, etc..because even in a hotel where everything else is oriented the opposite of our bedroom, I still pick the same side.
I think it has to do with the positions I sleep in and the subconscious “map” in my mind of which side my husband is on and which side I get out of bed. I often feel for my husband with my right hand (because he usually sleeps to my right) and if he’s not there, I then fully wake up and look. In other words, I know where to find him in my sleep. Also, if I’m awaken startled, I subconsciously know which side to fling off the bed to get up.
I think a lot of it too is the positions I sleep. When my husband sleeps to my left, it throws off my preferred sleeping positions.
Anyway, thank you all for posting. It’s an interesting and fun discussion ☺️