Tired of living
When I wake up each morning I am not grateful. For me life is not worth living. I had a miserable childhood and was traumatized by an abusive mother. I finally left home and went far away by myself to try and make a life. To a degree I was successful. I was fortunate to meet a wonderful man and we were married for 59 years before his death. Even so I have never been able to make friends or be comfortable in meeting people. I shrink from going into crowds. Now I am alone. I am 88 years old and am sick and tired of living. The only sure thing I know is that I will not do away with myself.
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You will not believe this but I am actually considering another cruise - this time alone. I will sail on the Regent Explorer. It is only a 7 day cruise to Alaska. I have done this cruise several times with my husband, but this would be a bit different. I have cousins living in Vancouver and they have invited me for a visit. I would not stay for more than 3 days, because you know what they say about fish and guests. If it happens it would be summer of 2024. So we will see. A lot can happen until then.
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@thisismarilynb I am so happy to hear you are planning on another cruise - this time on your own! Good for you! Way to go! 🙌🏼
What cruise line did you use? Did you sail from NJ or NY ?
The American Queen. Needless to say I will not sail on that line again. We sailed from Chicago through the Great Lakes and docked in Toronto.
Marilyn! I think that is great. Having something to look forward to is great medicine!! The destination is two incredible places...good for you!💞
Have you considered joining a group like YMCA? I take chair yoga and there are women of all ages from 50s-90s who attend. Something like that would at least place you in a safe social setting.
Also, is there a senior center near you where you can meet other seniors for lunch...perhaps play card games or go on outings?
I appreciate your suggestions. However I do live in a 55+ community and there are many clubs right here. I just don't have the interest right now to join anything. I have a problem with going out on my own in a social setting. This dates back to childhood. I am trying to work through this with my therapist. But thanks, anyway.
Marilyn - May I suggest what my daughter did after long Covid and PTSD from her ER days during Covid?
We call it "baby steps." In one of her volunteer groups, first she attended a few meetings via Zoom, then she attended one small group meeting of people there she already knew. She tried the "general assembly last month, but had to leave after just 5 minutes. This weekend, she was able to come to a presentation with 4 others and participate from the fringes - but it wore her out & she needed to go home to her furry pets after. This month she & I will go together, and I will be her emotional support person it will be outdoors, where she does better.
When my Mom's lifelong friend, with great social anxiety, moved to her senior living place, it took weeks... First we got her to come to lunch when her son & I would be there, and just the 4 of us could share a table. Then I coaxed her to come with me and join my Mom and one lady she knew slightly. Finally, she was able to join a table of 4 (including my Mom) on her good days. We also got her to come to movies and entertainment - where she could sit in back & leave if she felt too anxious.
Baby steps - are there any gatherings where you can just show up on the periphery and not necessarily need to interact?
Sue
Yes, there are. But my problem is not anxiety. I feel that when I show up no one wants to have anything to do with me. I don't know the reason. I just know it happens. So I just stay at home where I am comfortable and not being judged. As a matter of fact my friend with whom I went on our cruise and I went out to lunch today. That is not a problem for me. I will go out with someone I know. As I said before, the problem is going into a strange setting where no one knows me and feeling immediately rejected.