Hello linric70,
I'm so sorry to hear your doctor is such a J****!! How dare a professional talk to a patient like this! For whatever it's worth l think you should report the guy! One oncologist here, supposed to be a super woman in the field, told my husband too he had a few months to a year at best. I can still see her face, it looked like she even enjoyed it a little!! Believing herself to have that kind of power. Luckily we could change to another oncologist. I mean, we know what we are dealing with here and it's bad enough as it is but as my breast surgeon said - NOBODY KNOWS with absolute certainty when a person is going to die and that he stopped counting the patients who were still around five years later.
I wish both of you love and perseverance 🙏