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Hi. Where are you from in the south? I just moved two weeks ago to North Carolina. It will be difficult to make new friends. It never was easy for me and the older I get the harder it is. My neighbor came over yesterday and brought me cookies. She seems like she may be the neighborhood gossip, I dare say. She asked too many questions and wanted to know where I would be going to church, if I had a church, etc. I come from Midwest and that is too personal to me. Is that normal?
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Lived in TX, very close to Mexico border for over 30 yrs all the while trying to escape and blaming my family because I couldn’t. I’ve always based all decisions on whatever direction family is going; is THAT normal, a cop-out ? Just now at 72 have the resources to b able to travel but now lack the courage to venture out alone. Guess I’d better do something soon; health does nothing but decline from this point. Visited NCarolina - beautiful ! Appreciate ur input
Your instinct may be right about her position in the community. Best not to entertain her curiosity much. The question about the church is a Southern thing. At some point, she might invite you to her church and so she is trying to find out if you have found a church home yet, or if you go to church. (There seems to be a preoccupation with pseudo-religion down south). Welcome to NC, I also live in NC. Originally from NYC. It takes some getting used to but it is also a beautiful state with mountains to the West and beaches at the other end. Just take your time and find things you like to do and maybe you will find others and make new friends. Just do not feel obligated or motivated to do so for a cookies.
We moved from California to NC 5 years ago. Are you living in a rural area or urban? Makes a difference in community resources. Love all of the green and variety of birds...in fact watching the birds is such a mood lifter for me. We are really enjoying this new culture.
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@lindasmith1222. I find your question about asking about your church to be amusing. When I moved to Fargo, North Dakota in the 1980’s it seemed like most everyone I met asked me what church I went to. I never knew what to say as I’m Jewish and I joined the one and only synagogue in Fargo. Anyway, this was my introduction to living in the Midwest. I now live in Michigan and I don’t recall anyone asking me that question.
I’ve been “accused” of asking too many questions. I do that because I love to learn about people and their lives. I don’t do that when I first meet someone though.
Hmm. Maybe she is the neighborhood gossip. It’s nice of her to welcome you to the neighborhood but until you get to know your neighbors better I suppose it makes sense to decide how much you want to tell anyone at this point.
Like you, I find that the older I get the harder it is to make new friends.