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I am a bad caregiver and I feel like I can't do it anymore
Caregivers | Last Active: Jul 16, 2023 | Replies (38)Comment receiving replies
Well to give an update he survived his surgery and is doing good. But he has only ben there 2 days, I talk to the doctor yesterday about a SNF and he agreed it would be a good Idea. However the surgeon and her staff came today and said that they want him to come home that the risk of infection at a facility would be to high. I told them again that I cannot take care of him that I need help and they are telling me that it will be fine. They have ignored my voice and are trying to release him to my care today or tomorrow. I can't do this anymore, I don't have the energy to do this anymore... Why don't people listen? I feel like I want to run away and hide, If I didn't have animals to care for I would... It is sad that the first thought I had when he came out of surgery is how in the hell did you survive. The second was here we go again. For the last two days I have spent so much time crying I am at my limit I can't do any more and no ne is listening to me and I don't know what to do.
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Yolande, I agree with you & am getting a similar reaction from people I ask for help, including people recommended here. They don’t listen & don’t help. This is probably the hardest thing we will ever do. Certainly it’s my hardest thing. I am sorry you are having trouble too.
It seems to be the usual thing to discharge people to family with no concern that the family cannot handle the situation. I think this is a huge problem that needs to be addressed in our country. The only people that come out well in this situation, in my observation, are people that have plenty of money to hire help. Maybe people that are absolutely destitute get some help. I am sure sorry you are going through this. That feeling of wanting to run away and hide is so familiar to me that I changed my phone ringtone to "I ran." My situation was much different than yours is. Still, I sought help everywhere people told me to search and there was no help. There were plenty of sassy remarks, but no actual help. I wish I had an answer for you, but I am hoping you at least know that you are not alone.
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Yolande, please ask for help from a hospital social worker. They can help mediate and find resources for you.