Hi, @mikaylar I'm Scott and I lost my wife to brain cancer. Your post made me think about my own journey with grief. While I realize everyone is different and our journeys with grief vary widely, here is what I found/experienced.

I let grief take its course. I actually threw away every book folks had given me that talked about the 'stages' of grief. I found my grief was mine and not something that could be dictated to me in how I was to move through it, accept it, etc. Like I said -- just me, but accepting that grief was now a partner in my life allowed me to feel it without guilt about how it was affecting me on any particular day or time of day.

I also found a therapist who was a terrific listener and allowed me to process/rant/vent and help me understand those feelings.

One thing I still do is that I keep a "To Do" list and make sure I do one thing on it a day -- plus as I finish one item I always add a new one to the bottom of the list. Some are big, most are small, but each one gives me a goal every day and helps me look forward to at least a portion of each day.

Thank you for posting and I hope the sun is shining wherever you are today!

Strength, Courage, & Peace