You are definitely not alone. We live in a classist, judgmental society where so many suffer needlessly from abuse by those in "superior" positions. I do what I can to try to change things and have found that writing letters to those in power--if I'm not getting what I feel should be proper care from the VA, I first contact my VA health care team, then move on to the VA medical center's chief of service; the next step is to write to/send proper forms to the medical center's patient advocate. I also write to my state representatives. So far, I have been able to get good results from my mailings. I may not be able to get my needs met, but somewhere down the line, the younger veterans will benefit.