Your dietary goals sound reasonable and sound @irishpeaks. I've read a lot lately about processed foods and their negative impact. Having a 'cheat day' makes life worth living! I've been having way to many 'cheat day's' lately. I need your discipline!
It must have been super stressful having lost your father at such a young age, seeing your brother go through the process of a heart transplant all while you began the same journey. That's a lot to process! Thank goodness you have found an association here on Mayo Connect that you can share with "like-minded folks." Knowing what you know now, and being able to make decisions for your better health is a good thing. You may not have much of a choice, as you say, about your diagnosis, but you do have a choice about your attitude. You have a really good attitude. It comes across in your posts.