@mrainne
Well. This is quite the question! I hate to think I have hijacked this thread, but you were the one who created it, so here goes!

I cannot be transplanted for a new kidney because of my cancer status. I am on dialysis for the rest of my life, my life as I choose to live it, or not. I am attaching a link here from the National Kidney Foundation, that addresses the question you pose. Personally, I have known one person who chose to not go forward with dialysis, much to her husband's sadness. It is indeed a personal choice.

As far as being eligible for a kidney transplant, ask your nephrologist for a referral to a nearby transplant center, if you want to explore that option. Remember, there are several great websites also that will give you preliminary information. While my options don't exist, that doesn't mean yours don't. Does this all help you?
https://www.kidney.org/atoz/content/dialysisstop#:~:text=This%20varies%20from%20person%20to,and%20their%20overall%20medical%20condition.
Ginger