Greetings Meitsjustme.
A) An essay that is especially informative is called Understanding the Dementia Experience.
B) Two books I found to be especially helpful are
1-Untangling Alzheimer’s by Tam Cummings and
2-The 36 Hour Day
C) online videos by Teepa Snow regarding validation are very educational.
D) by far the most helpful resource I have found is the stories shared by other caregivers. Build a network with caregivers. Find a support group. In my experience, Other caregivers will walk the journey with you. They have real life experiences that will be valuable to you.

Hi LadyTexan, Thanks for the suggestions. I'll look for the books and the essay. As far as a support group, I joined this group ALZ Connect within the last week. Already I've found strangers willing to help. It's something to be very grateful for.

Here's another book. "Creating Moments of Joy Along the Alzheimer's Journey: A Guide for Families and Caregivers" by Jolene Brackey

Good morning, @meitsjustme One book I found helpful was a small book by James F. Miller. It actually has two titles for each half of the book. One is "When You're the Caregiver: 12 Things to Do if Someone You Love is Ill or Incapacitated." The other half is titled "When You're Ill or Incapacitated: 12 things to Remember in Times of Sickness, Injury, or Disease." I found this book to be very helpful, especially in the early portion of my wife's journey.

This also helped me look at things from my wife's point of view.

Strength, Courage, & Peace

Thanks for taking the time to recommend these. I appreciate it,

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz helped me and my children. Though my husband may not understand or abide by them, it has been a sanity saver for us. We see a family counselor who helps us work through things. Yes, sometimes we have to engage in therapeutic fibbing to get through my husband's catastrophic breakdown events (never argue and sometimes you have to play along with the hallucinations to keep the peace). Don't take anything personal and do your best. Really good read that helps in alot of other areas in life.

@meitsjustme Other members have given you some wonderful book recommendations!! You could also think ahead and explore what’s available in your community. Senior Centers have lectures for the caregiver and day programs for the care-receiver. Many of them also have resource counselors who can point you in the right direction. You may also wish to find a counselor/therapist for yourself. You need to feel free to unburden yourself as time moves on.
I loved reading your posting. Your attitude was so upbeat and you’re thinking ahead.
May I ask how you found Mayo Clinic Connect?

Lady Texan mentioned "Understanding the dementia experience". I am not able to post a link here, but if you go to alzconnected, you can search for the title. The link should show up.
She also mentioned videos by Teepa Snow. You can find her videos on youtube if you search for them. Another one I really like is "Careblazers", and you can find that by searching youtube too. Both of these women are excellent teachers, and they can give you a lot of great tips.

Thanks, Ed. It looks like I have my reading and viewing lists cut out for me for a while! But, I'll save some time for fiction, too. 🙂

Finding Grace in the Face of Dementia by John Dunlop, MD is a great book.