After trying to do it all myself, I have come to realize “they” are right. I do need time for myself. I have learned to say yes to a meal when offered, to ask a relative or friend if they might sit with my loved one for a few hours while I run errands or go to the doctor or to watch a grandchild’s concert or sports event, and I now have hired a sitter for a few hours twice a week for a few hours each time. It has been SO freeing. Some days I go out, or I may stay home and do some work undisturbed, or even take a nap. Worth every penny! It enables me to be a better care partner too.
Sending you a hug. We all need more of those too.