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Is it Me or Bad Luck?

Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Apr 12, 2023 | Replies (7)

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Frances, sorry for your problems. The one that resonated with me the most is the loss of your dog. I as well as many others I am sure have felt your grief. But for heaven sakes get a cat rather than a pet rat. I hear they have 9 lives! Besides, they make loving companions. I speak from experience. With regard to Christianity and a former therapist I believe it’s as a minimum unprofessional behaviour, but also a waste of your time. I live in Quebec (former bastion of all things Catholic) where all religious symbols of any kind are forbidden in all government offices, classrooms, court rooms etc. Why they even removed the big cross gracing the National Assembly. It took awhile but it did happen. Change is slow but progress is made in inches not yards at a time. Don’t be discouraged, it’s not you, it’s mostly bad luck with those therapists. May I ask, what training and professional accreditation is required of therapists in your state ?

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In California, Licensed Clinical Social Workers are required to have a Masters Degree and also complete both written and oral examinations with the State. I had the experience of living with one for 10 years so I am well aware of the licensing and education requirements, not to mention those things that can lead to suspensions and things of that nature. There are other providers, and they are MFCC's. Marriage and Family Counselors, the licensing requirements for these are not as stringent. The fact that I have now had two bad experiences with tele-therapists has been disheartening to me for various reasons. The first one, MFCC, was actually quite helpful until she suddenly decided she could not work with me because I had a chronic illness; however, I had been working with her for over 6 months before she decided to bail. My illness was really not the primary reason I sought care, but nonetheless she decided and documented that I was "at the end of my life" and she did not have experience treating anyone with a chronic illness. An internal investigation was commenced after I complained, but because she had documented that she thought I would be better served with 1:1 in person treatment, no one at her company would help me. So, I was referred by my doctor to a different company which led to the current therapist, a LCSW, who obviously is not a good fit for me. While I have grounds to file a complaint with the Board of Behavioral Sciences, I will not do so as the process is long and stressful to say the least. I am shaking my head as I type this because all of it seems like a bad dream.
I am Canadian as both my parents were born in BC and I lived there growing up. I understand a lot about Quebec as well as the other provinces. I have even given thought to moving back to Vancouver where my cousins live, but everything is so expensive. In any event, I have let the current therapist's company know what kind of therapist I want, and was very specific. No religion based therapy, LGBT sensitivity and things of that nature. In retrospect, I probably should have ended the relationship much sooner, especially when she began arguing with me about how old the Bible is, various parables in the Bible and things of that nature. I let it go because I wanted to talk to someone about my disease, the lack of care I was receiving and how frustrated I had become with the medical system.
This week I will make it quite clear to this provider that while she has been very kind, her comments to me about lesbians was insulting to say the least. All of this is just maddening.

I thank you for your comment to me, and appreciate your kind words.