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Loneliness is a difficult place to be. Do you have family or friends to talk to? Are you house bound? I moved to be near family and it has not been how I imagined it would be. I rarely see my family, what is left of it, and am accused of being 'needy' when I try for more contact. Now I just take what I can get. I have no friends here. I miss the friends I have left back in my former state. We used to call each other often after I moved and now it has been nearly 2 years and I am the only one hanging on, continue to call, but they have moved on. I am not a religious person but have found church is a friendly place to meet good people. I moved from the southwest to the south and have had culture shock. Is that happening for you as well?
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I’m so sorry; I too have experienced ur situation/feelings and been trudging along for a couple of yrs now. Only difference, I moved from the south to central. Yes totally different culture. There are more social activities yet I feel it would b more enjoyable w/company. Despite trying my best I also have found it hard to start new friendships so maybe we can b long distance friends…?
I am also not a religious person so the Unitarian Church is perfect for me. I also found a seniors group before I retired and have made many good friends in the seven years I've been a member. Best wishes to you - Kathleen
If you have moved to Florida it is most definately a culture shock as Florida is outgrowing it's appeal with a population explosion, housing explosion, traffic explosion and on and on. We are trying to move back to South Carolina where the people are courteous and friendly and one can breath fresh air and drive on a beautiful road with lovely trees. We are tired of Florida...Florida is NOT the south. Good luck. Church sounds like a good place to start.
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I'm glad you've found church to be a positive experience. I've been considering trying that myself.
Families can be surprising. In mine we're not close, it's all a bit formal. I've never been called needy, but my brother once said helping me was "like pushing water uphill" which, though probably true, and maybe funny, is still sad.
I did move geographically,a long way, and the effects of that cannot be underestimated. It's frustrating when even nice, friendly people don't feel culturally familiar. But I'm sure with time things will improve!