So an update on my dad. They are releasing him from SNF in a week. The options I’ve been presented with are:
1. Move into AL with my mother and add Hospice care. Sounds good but it seems like there would still be a lot of time without assistance. My mother or I would have to fill in the gap for him. My mother physically can’t handle caring for him and I can’t always be there.
2. Move him to a LTC facility. I think that would have the same issues the SNF has. Understaffed, and no one watching him. Yesterday my father needed to be changed. I was right there so I called the CNA immediately. They were handing out lunches at the time and told me they would come back when they were finished handing out meals. I waited. Waited. Asked someone else. Nothing. Asked someone else. Nothing. It was 2 hours before anyone arrived to clean and change him. How long would it have been if no one was there to ask and watch? If I hadn’t been there it could have been all day. These patients can’t even ring for the nurse on their own to ask for help.

It really is a shame that there aren’t better facilities for those with both dementia and phyisical ailments.