It’s ok…what’s in the past has passed! Your mom is getting the attention she needs now.
As a mom, I can tell you we tend to ‘spare’ our children because we expect whatever is going on will take care of itself. We don’t want to cause alarm for no reason. 🙄
I learned that from my mom and honestly, it drove me nuts when she would hide medical issues!! By the time she’d let me know about some things, they’d gone too far!

So, when I was diagnosed with AML, my daughter was in on it from day one, along with my husband. I don’t agree with hiding the details from the people who need to know the most…my family. It gave them time to prepare for any eventuality and also to help me make important decisions that would impact the family.

I applaud you for being the bossy middle child! Your mom may not admit this but having her situation out in the open has to be a relief for her. This way you can all pitch in to help ease her anxieties and also be there for each other. There may be nothing of concern but, until she has the tests, no one knows. And it’s important to find out early.

So stand your ground and be supported. Your mom has raised you to be thoughtful and caring. So this is a time she can see her adult kids being there for her! My daughter was 36 at the time of my diagnosis and I was so incredibly proud of how she handled everything. We moms tend to think of our kids as our kids no matter how old they are. But when we get the chance to see them adulting, it’s one of those moments of pride we never forget. So keep being the adult and help your mom make those decisions she’s dragging her heals about. 🙃
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