Thanks for the advice. I'm still mulling over the conversation I had yesterday.
I do hope to be able to do at least one useful thing resulting from many of the comments here as well as this particular appointment.

There seems to be a wealth of knowledge about how patients navigate these difficult treatment straits, which now seem to find a repository only in what our oncology nursing staff hear and remember. This potentially helpful information currently seems to reach patients who look for answers and hints of answers elsewhere. I can't help thinking that making this wisdom available routinely in the local setting, would be helpful. The best example I can think of is that I learned about "Chemo Brain" and Chemo Feet and Hands" from one of the Infusion Center nurses; it was not mentioned by my oncologist.

I'd like to propose some way of preserving this experience through a semi-formal mechanism that could be made available to new patients. I have in mind two individuals who might be helpful to move such a project through the local system. One is a nurse who wrote for a grant to help provide headphones for the TVs in each infusion cubicle, so that other patients wouldn't be aggravated and the nursing staff could hear themselves think and manage the phones! The other individual, if a physician champion would be helpful, is a colleague of decades standing, who I know has a good heart.