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Frustration with everything. I’m about to lose it
Caregivers | Last Active: Apr 30, 2023 | Replies (47)Comment receiving replies
My 82 yr old father-in-law (polio survivor) has late stage vascular dementia with sundowning and cataplexy events associated with narolepsy, minimal leg strength due to polio. He fell during a delusional eposide and broke his hip. Five family members supplemented his hospital care 24hrs/day to keep him safe even though he was on video watch most of the time. Many times security was called on him during delusional episodes. The hospital placed him in a rehab facility which wouldn't allow him to stay (after we admitted him) unless we continued the 24 hr family staffing. The stress on us was so high as during this same time as I realized that my husband has early dementia symptoms at age 58, which he over time admitted to knowing about and has spoken with his 61 yr old brother who has Lewy Body dementia, mid-stage. The stress is so high, I sympathize with you. Ask for a prescription for a bed rail. Are bed alarms allowed at any memory care centers in your area? If you are able to afford additional staffing and want him to stay there, do it. It is peace of mind. He may settle in after awhile, but while his hip is healing and there is such a risk for another fall, these patients are high need and the facilities cannot staff bedside 24hrs. Hope this helps.
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Dear friend I understand a little bit about what you're going through my wife is having problems eating food I go from one place to another trying to get things that she can eat she can eat it once or twice and then I have to find another place I try cooking it doesn't work just occasionally I can cook something and she'll eat it but only for maybe a day or two then she has to have something else and we're running out of a variety we've gone to every kind of fast food place and restaurant which is not the best kind of food for but it's better than her and eating nothing our daughters help when they can they all have families and jobs it's very difficult and I just trust in the Lord I pray to him daily I ask for help at church and I might ask for prayer at different churches the Lord Jesus Christ is in control of everything and he's in control of Our Lives he wants us to turn to him and trust him as Lord and savior he died on the cross for our sins that we might have eternal life and life life in this world he promised us that in this world we would have tribulations but sure that he is overcome the world and that he's prepared a better place for us and he also will help in this life he's a great physician and he will help but not always in the way that we think that he should because Eternal things are much more important all his Parables taught that Eternal things are more important than temporal things and sometimes we don't understand that I'll pray for you my brother and I hope that your father is doing better God bless him I pray that you would get him a chaplain or Christian Pastor to help pray for him and encourage him and counsel him