I constructed my family in three “batches” so 3, two years apart then 5 years to recover, than two more. My son was a “loaner” child who I fostered but when he became adoptable we were already in love with him. So six.
Our house was busy and fun. We often had to sort out which children lived there and send the others home.
Take good care of yourself and fight for what you need. You are essential.