Wow, six children! That's a lot of mouths to feed! Are they close in age (wondering here how many teenagers you had in the house at once)? As I said before, I consider myself very lucky to have even one little (mostly) sweetheart. Hubby and I both had the genetic testing required for ivf 5 years ago and no, there is no genetic component. Our son was conceived naturally, but since I'm no spring chicken anymore, I think nature may make the decision for us.
Regarding the oncologist, I agree. Unless I see a huge change in attitude at my next appointment, I will likely switch treatment centers. We're moving soon and will be living closer to other hospitals anyway, so it makes sense. The obstetrician, on the other hand, is another story. Here, one schedules an appointment with a midwife once you're pregnant. They won't see you before you're 8 weeks unless it's a high risk pregnancy. Those who wish to get pregnant are referred to fertility clinics, and fertility clinics here don't treat women over 43 years of age. I know there are clinics in other countries we could go to, but in my case now that's beside the point. In any case, thanks for sharing your story and for the support, it is much appreciated!