Vaginal atrophy and painful intercourse: What helps?
Seems like vaginal atrophy is a taboo topic, yet so many women are suffering with this. It’s a subject so difficult to discuss with your husband, partner, doctors, etc. Many women have told me estrogen creams don’t work, Mona Lisa type treatments don’t help, and our sex lives are non-existent.
Honestly I feel almost worthless when it comes to being intimate. It’s really sad and I wish I could have normal sex again without feeling like I’m being stabbed by a knife, hiding my face crying, and swollen.
Have you found anything that helps?
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@artscaping Thanks for what you do as a volunteer!! I would really like to do that someday but I'm still pretty strapped with my caretaking duties. I'm just now getting back to taking care of my medical 'issues'. Someday I hope. This site and all the great people who share on here are lifesavers for me (and others I'm sure).
I'm still researching this Viveve. I asked my new primary care about it and (not completely sold on this guy) said he knew nothing. I had a great feeling about the Urogyno I saw (first/only visit) as she's in her late 70's and is very frank and forthcoming. I'll share more as I learn more too.
If you're looking for bemoaning experience, I've taken that to an art form (ha ha). I have learned that you really have to do a lot of your own research (at good sources) and get input from others in your situation and then take that back to your doctors. Quite often I have brought up things to my docs and my husbands (armed with printed materials) and the doctors are surprised to learn something. Most important...you know your body. I find doctors gaslight me a lot (sigh) and I have to temper my anger about that with facts and being persistent. If what they've done isn't working and if this might be another, second or additional option then ask them to explain how this treatment might help restore your vaginal tissue. I'm still researching myself but I'll certainly share as I move forward. Lovely to meet you! Hugs
I have heard of the procedure however don't know anyone who has had it done post-menopausal and or on estrogen inhibitors experiencing vaginal atrophy. I believe this is one of the two biggest issues I have post-breast cancer and letrozole use this year. At 63 I developed this problem overnight and it is only getting worse. Besides the obvious and profound effects on my sexuality, it actually hurts to sit. I do use hyaluronic acid vaginal moisturizers which help but not enough. I have many questions for my oncologist's next visit about her patient's experiences if any. I wonder if a patient on estrogen inhibition/aromatase inhibition is a good candidate for this procedure. It would seem to me it wouldn't last long. Yes, I too am angered this procedure is not covered by health insurance. We must keep fighting! Any information I find out I will post here. Wish you well.
@randy36
I will share here too as I look into this. I wasn't able to take the estrogen inhibiting drugs due to side effects but I lost my hormones anyway, but I'm sure it took my body much longer to get in this state. I do use estradiol vaginal cream and it helps. My oncologist cleared it for me and no doctor has seemed concerned that you get too much of it systemically in the body. You might ask your doctors about that as well. It made all the difference, up to this point, and now I'm on this journey to get a more effective/permanent solution. Hugs to you.
Thank you for your reply. Yes, I was told that I could use vaginal estrogen cream but only a pea size up to 3x/week. I was diagnosed with 100% estrogen-dependent breast CA. I hate the multiple side effects of the AIs and understand why you went off. I am still within my 1st year since diagnosis, treatment, and double mastectomy so I'm quite nervous about quitting the letrozole and using the estrogen creams. It does help though. If I find that having this procedure is not only highly effective but lasting on AI post-menopausal patients, I would certainly consider it but financially would be difficult. I wonder what women can do to bring this issue to the forefront of women's health issues and help force insurance companies to cover this under such circumstances...I will continue to follow this thread. Again thank you.
@randy36 When you next see your oncologist you might ask how to use the vaginal estrogen cream. At the Menopause and Sexual Health Women's Clinic at Mayo Clinic I was instructed to put a pea size amount on my fingers and rub it in like I would use a moisturizer on the labia majora and the labia minora (inner and outer lips of the vulva) which allows the cream to penetrate at the opening of the vagina. I had been using the full amount in the insert tube as the directions instructed and the nurse educator told me that this wasn't necessary for me. It did work. Unfortunately, I can no longer use it per my oncology nurse practitioner and radiation oncologist. At least for now. I'm hoping that might change in the future.
Will you let me know what your oncologist says? I hope you have the success that I did when I was using an estradiol cream.
I was also 100% estrogren positive.....little progesterone (ever)...kinda explains that cancer 'thingy', sigh. I'll keep you posted and YES.....women are still not on par with treatment and care from the medical community. It is, of course, wrong. I think there are lot of us blazing that trail and trying to get better medical options.
Hi Helen, thank you and yes I was instructed the same. I just didn't go into detail. Good to know the docs are on the same page. I will post what I find out after my appt. next week.
@cindylb I so agree with you. When I first went to the Menopause and Sexual Health Clinic at Mayo I was introduced to information and approaches that I knew nothing about. All based on research evidence that is likely available to plenty of other medical providers. Yes, we are blazing the trail and we must keep advocating for ourselves.
Will you keep us posted on your own medical appointments and what you learn?
Hi Randy @randy36 It's good that your doctor gave you that information which means that they are reading and getting the newer evidence. I'll look for your update next week.
@naturegirl5 I certainly will. I would be very interested in any treatments or approaches you might have learned at the Mayo Clinic as well. I don't have access to Mayo where I live and I learn a great deal that is helpful from these forums and from the Mayo Newsletters, etc. Hugs to all as we work together to improve our health as women. Hugs.