That’s a lot to consider. Like Lori, I had to digest what you wrote before responding. Having raised five girls and adopted a son, my first response was that if they were born teenagers, people might never have a second child. So there’s that. But you and the children survive those years and they grow into (mostly) delightful adults who enrich your life and often give you truly precious grandchildren who, unlike their parents as teenagers, love you, seek out your counsel and are happy to spend time with you. It all works out.
I suspect that your physician (hem/onc) is not serving you well. You need someone who is solidly in your corner and gives you information. That’s so important.
I also suspect that you need an ob/gyn who specializes in high risk pregnancies due to age as much as the potential risk of the lymphoma both to you and the fetus. Is there a genetic component? I hate to introduce that worry and hopefully not but I would want that ruled out.
There is a lot going on here. You need to live your life fully and scratch what itches, but one must weigh the cost as well as the reward. I’m sure either way you will decide what is best for you and your family.
Let us know! We will cheer for you whatever you decide.
Patty