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Going back to work to help cover costs & be a supportive caregiver
Caregivers | Last Active: Feb 24, 2023 | Replies (9)Comment receiving replies
Thank you so much for your reply. It helps me to have outside feedback and endorsement. Wanting to work to get away - there's guilt in that. The jobs I'm applying for would be low stress but provide a social outlet. I love to work and have regretted at times having to retire, although I have plenty of interests in retirement also. Family members are located across the U.S. but they say "Do it yesterday!" My husband has a wonderful attitude despite all of his challenges. He cannot see well enough to drive, however, and has severe neuropathy. We think we can identify a reliable driver or use Uber. When I suffer burnout I become angry and resentful toward my circumstances - a life I'd never have chosen but can find beauty in becomes burdensome. I want to avoid taking it out on my husband, who also would never have chosen his circumstances.
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You are a wise woman. None of us chose this path. Having an outside interest then gives us something to share with our person. It can brighten the day, or not, but still validates each of us. You are very special, don’t ever forget this!
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Then do it! I'm like you with anger creeping up when I'm in this state. When I was a caretaker for my mom, even on the day it took her to die, I had to leave the house to refresh my mind and take a break. I no longer feel bad about it but we were all better for it.
If I have to take a break from Dave now I will. But to tell you the truth a strident part of his personality has vanished and he is nicer! He is less sarcastic, or not at all. HELLO, I am actually loving being home with him now. We have fun, and joke, and when he's serious or confused I can spend that time with all my heart and attention on him without any resentment.
My social outlets now are the people who are helping us get settled and letting us live peacefully too. Yesterday was a bizarre day and I was so relieved when people left. It was like, ok it's us again!
It's nice to meet you. Can I ask what is the type of job that you're looking at?