Hi @katebw, when I first got ER sick and spent days there getting blood & regulating my labs and found out I have led we weren’t even thinking about it.

We never had to talk about it but always did casually. My sex drive had been declining but it wasn’t an issue. It’s now going on month 7 and we’ve only had sex 2x..The first felt like being violated by knives. The second I really planned ahead and physically everything felt normal but I still had pain but in one spot.

We talk freely about anything and he’s not pushing at all but I can’t let him get too close because the minute he touches me…..and I feel so incredibly guilty. Not having sex doesn’t bother me, as long as the itching doesn’t come back I’m content with anything. And I thought I would be evolved enough to give him the option of fulfillment elsewhere but since I can’t even type it without crying (and I’m not a crier), I’m pretty sure it’s not a good idea.