I feel you - so aggravating to yet another crazy thing the docs can't tell you what is and you sound crazy when you try and tell them about it. Tried so many things - different vitamins and minerals, went for a sleep study in case it was that. I did need a CPAP, but it didn't help with the ear pain unfortunately. I bought one of the little foam travel pillows with a hole for the ear, and it seemed to help, but was too small and I kept having to re-position it through the night to keep my ear over the hole. I got the bright idea to get a memory foam pillow and cut out a section to accommodate the small pillow inside it. Well, that didn't really work. I took out the small pillow, and then just for kicks, I put a soft cotton pillowcase over the big pillow which now had a BIG hole in it and tried that. It works better than anything I've tried. I still don't get as much rest as I'd like because I can only sleep on my sides, but it is better.