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Sex issues and liver disease questions

Posted by feruj @feruj, Jan 29, 2023

I have liver disease and am in the early stages of Transplant consideration. I see how blessed I have been in terms of symptom severity. I’ve always been comfortable talking about sex and my husband isn’t stressing me about it. I’m not sure how blunt is too blunt here but I would appreciate feedback from people dealing with partners having this issue as well.
Also, my gy retired so should I be looking for any specific specialist and are there resources for women with this issue…thanks

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katebw | @katebw | Jan 30, 2023

@feruj do you mean your husband and you disagree about having sex at this time? Or talking about it? I think it’s healthy to talk about this stuff in the context of major illness.

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feruj | @feruj | Jan 30, 2023

Hi @katebw, when I first got ER sick and spent days there getting blood & regulating my labs and found out I have led we weren’t even thinking about it.

We never had to talk about it but always did casually. My sex drive had been declining but it wasn’t an issue. It’s now going on month 7 and we’ve only had sex 2x..The first felt like being violated by knives. The second I really planned ahead and physically everything felt normal but I still had pain but in one spot.

We talk freely about anything and he’s not pushing at all but I can’t let him get too close because the minute he touches me…..and I feel so incredibly guilty. Not having sex doesn’t bother me, as long as the itching doesn’t come back I’m content with anything. And I thought I would be evolved enough to give him the option of fulfillment elsewhere but since I can’t even type it without crying (and I’m not a crier), I’m pretty sure it’s not a good idea.

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katebw | @katebw | Jan 31, 2023
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Hi @katebw, when I first got ER sick and spent days there getting blood & regulating my labs and found out I have led we weren’t even thinking about it.

We never had to talk about it but always did casually. My sex drive had been declining but it wasn’t an issue. It’s now going on month 7 and we’ve only had sex 2x..The first felt like being violated by knives. The second I really planned ahead and physically everything felt normal but I still had pain but in one spot.

We talk freely about anything and he’s not pushing at all but I can’t let him get too close because the minute he touches me…..and I feel so incredibly guilty. Not having sex doesn’t bother me, as long as the itching doesn’t come back I’m content with anything. And I thought I would be evolved enough to give him the option of fulfillment elsewhere but since I can’t even type it without crying (and I’m not a crier), I’m pretty sure it’s not a good idea.

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@feruj I’m so sorry. When I was really sick I asked for back rubs and hugs so my partner and I could feel close, and I was comfortable. It brought us closer together.

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