I agree with what you are saying. Saying I’m going to tough it out because I love them is fine if you mean it.

Not having temptation is going to be a little harder but manageable.

But there is so much more going on usually in peoples minds then some of the responses acknowledge.
There are different expectations and perceptions involved.
Talking about it is key but if you can’t even perceive the same situation the same then it is almost impossible to talk.
There is also resentment and I am not necessarily talking about the well person blaming the sick person for their lack of sex.
Being human, the sick person may resent the well person for bringing it up because it is their loss too and they have to contend with that plus feelings of inadequacy.

I do not doubt that people who say they are together, happy and still in love with no sex are sincere. I think it is beautiful.

I just think that people should not be condemned for having thoughts that they are not ready to live out their days without sex.