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Sexless Marriage (when one partner is ill)

Men's Health | Last Active: Dec 15 11:01am | Replies (196)

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@dbennett2

Because one partner does not want to have sex, why is the other doomed to that same fate. People know how important sex is in a relationship, yet the other person is just to remain silent and just accept it? Why is the other spouse so selfish, regulating another person to a sexless marriage? The other spouse could do other aspects of sex, oral or hand techniques. Why must the other feet like, "too bad so sad "? Or the spouse could say, "I love you so go have sex with someone, just come home each night be with me. It's just a physical love or attraction and you're not going to leave your spouse " . Comments please?

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Hi Dbennet, Welcome to connect. My answer would be not something that probally would go over well. As a believer in the Bible and God's promises I come from a different perspective.
Have you given thought to if you were the one who could not have any form of sex would you be OK with your advice? I've been in a relationship without for about 10 years now. When I married her our vows were in sickness or health. I like to think about someone like Christopher Reeves and how his wife stuck by his side. Now I can see cuddling is still an option but I can't imagine much more. And if you are a faith based person a marriage is for a lifetime. So with God's help i have come to accept it and enjoy the other aspects of our lives. Some other examples would be like a nursing home situation, I have an uncle whose wife my aunt had MS (she passed away recently) which in the later stages is pretty much just a time of very few words and just being there for her. I suggest a book that is based on a true story called "The Notebook" by Nicholas Sparks. Of a man with a wife who developed senile dementia its also movie with James Garner in it. Beautiful story of the kind of Love I hope I can have in that situation. So I hope maybe youu might reconsider what love is as we get older.
Blessings