He is in contact with his PCP and also with his former psychiatrist who has been great about renewing his meds while he’s searching for another practitioner where we now live. We moved across the country after my husband died. So he’s lost his dad; he didn’t necessary engage in a lot of emotional communication with him but his loss has certainly affected him. There isn’t another older male figure in his life at this point.
After reading birdiemomma’s posts, I approached him again last night about telling his son and he said he knows he should do it and wants to but he wasn’t sure how/when. So I advised him to do it when he is not in a low spot rather when he’s in the midst of a crisis and to keep it very simple. He said he doesn’t know if his son can understand a mental vs physical condition but I don’t think that matters. He simply has something which you can’t really see and which isn’t catching or anyone’s fault but which causes him to not want to get up and engage at times - period. So he seemed amenable and willing to do that. We will see. To your point about messages - I see it - and I may be wrong- as self fulfillment in a negative way. That is his ex is very efficient and hard-working and I am not sure she truly understands that he hasn’t a lot of control over his moods - so he knows she emerges as super-mom their son and when he feels like crap I think he figures he may as well live up to his poor estimation of himself - if that makes any sense.