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@mglinkhart What you are sharing in this message is very much what I have experienced. After a surgery this past July, I broke out in a terrible rash - like hives, so terribly itchy and painful. No one had answers. . . but after a month, it went away. Just one example of many, unfortunately, which is not unusual for those of us who have gone through or continue to go through cancer treatment. A good friend of mine who survived a rare Stage 4 cancer (now 20+ years later) told me she broke out for no reason for years - so this helped me not feel so different. Putting on a happy face 24/7 isn't realistic or humanly possible even without cancer. . . so I tell myself the truth, which is, it's okay not to be happy all the time. Sometimes we feel sadness, anxiety, excitement, joy, pain, fear, boredom, disappointment . . the list goes on. . . So when I think about how I lived before cancer, I still had days I felt emotions that were less than welcomed. . . . this is part of life. I think cancer just puts those feelings on the forefront of our minds, and exacerbates those emotions. There is no short supply of emotions during cancer and after. I've found I need to give myself the space to feel those emotions and let them run full-circle. I can't find healing at the end if I stop the process in the middle. I NEED the process to run its course, and I NEED to let myself heal emotionally. Crawling into bed is surely something we've all felt. . and maybe there's a day you need to do that - but then COME BACK OUT. :). I, too, have felt like I've been complaining. . . I think that's my mind's trick on me because it is not so much complaining, but PROCESSING what I have been and continue to go through. Be real. That can release some of the pressure. I surely do understand what you mean to say "I don't even want to hear it." It's tiring for us cancer patients, too (sigh). I found that when I gave myself a mental break from everything, my body (and spirit) rested a bit to make it through the next thing. Even if it's just a few moments (because we all know that cancer presses in on us, though we don't want it to). Sometimes, those moments can grow into minutes, and then hours. And then, if we can manage it, it can become days, weeks, or even longer. I've experienced seasons of both short and long breaks. The point being, we need mental breaks. And especially today, on Thanksgiving, we want to be thankful. . . . and yet, sometimes we struggle to find thankfulness in the midst of cancer. A thankful heart is surely good medicine for the soul and body - but be patient with yourself to find it. And you will. :). I lean heavily on Phillippians 4:8: "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think about such things." These words became my life verse after my 15-month old son was diagnosed with cancer. It kept me thinking of things that were praiseworthy, and kept the negativity and fear from being the loudest voice in my head. Today, that son is now sitting at my dining room table, 30 years later. :). We do our best in this life, and pray it can be a living testament to the love of our Lord. At least that's been my hope. Give yourself permission to feel those tougher emotions, and then let it circle 'round back to hope. Hugs to you on this Thanksgiving Day, Maria.

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Bless you and your beautiful family today and always. I love that verse and will lean heavily on it today and the future.
Happy Thanksgiving. M