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@virtuous69

Hi thx for reply. Just moved 2 miles away from our expensive retirement
community. I am 74 years old and have terrible spine issues ...getting out
if bed is torture. I get relief from an opiate but the pain is so severe
that I,m not emotionally stable to put up with all the noise and sudden
temper outbursts. His pain is getting worse and the pandemic threw
all our progress out the door. My PC was going to check community svs to
see if I can get some help thru Medicare. I hired a lady from church whom
I pay $22 hrs. To help me sort through the junk that still remains to be
sorted and tossed.
My husband can be so sweet and it hurts to see him decline. I need to get
away from him for a spell. Had gone to the library for books on subject.
Had 10 sessions of free counseling g from my church and walked around my
apt. Now I Hurt so much to get dressed and get going. Force myself to do
some chores. In this group, I just need to vent. Will be meeting with
hubby's cardiologist to discuss vein transfer which was our original
attempt before good vein surgeon left the country during the pandemic, I
had bowel cancer and surgery, clean results 6 months ago and waiting for
new f/u results. Having self pity issues lifting both walkers in the car
and my hubby's stubbornness to wear his hearing aids among other stuff.
Will go to other appropriate connect sites, but right now I just want to
scream.
Am hoping nerve abelation on December will help me cope better. But our
hospitals and medical sites are a disaster in the last two years.The
homeless have taken over and many med personnel have quit leaving those
left, stressed and overworked.
Hugs to you....

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Replies to "Hi thx for reply. Just moved 2 miles away from our expensive retirement community. I am..."

I am so glad to hear you were able to line up at least some assistance, hopefully more help will be forthcoming in the near future. However beware, frustration is said to increase following improvement in conditions for people. I do the Alexander Technique to keep my pains at bay. As it is considered alternative healthcare I pay out of pocket for it though, but I find it to be well worth it.

I too have watched the decline of a significant other, it hurts as you say. What got me through that experience was a antidepressant. I also went once a week to group therapy, but I found the antidepressant far more helpful.

I agree it is more challenging during the pandemic to interact with medical settings. Responses to questions can run slower, and Medical Assistants in my neck of the woods don't always properly grasp your question, adding even further to the delay. I just ordered a Doodle Grief book I read about on this connect site today. I will try to get back here with how the doodling goes. Hugs to you too.