When I read the beginning of your post, I thought maybe I had joined the group and posted and didn't remember doing that! Seriously, my husband of 52 years is bipolar, has fibromyalgia, late stage 4/early 5 kidney disease, a pacemaker. He is in chronic pain, sleeps or sits a lot, and is very depressed right now. He has just been referred for an evaluation for a kidney transplant.

Over our entire marriage, he has suffered through mood swings in the spring and fall, and also when there is a big event coming up. At times he gets very angry/hostile about something that I don't see coming. Because it is unseeable and unstoppable. I can think about all possible scenarios and try to smooth the future for him, but then he reacts with huge anger about something I never even thought about. It is a volcano of emotions and there is no way to predict or stop it.
I would be honored to talk with you privately because it seems like we are both trying to cope with a very similar situation. I do want to add, that my husband is a very funny, caring, intelligent, creative and loving person when he is not depressed. We have learned many healthy ways of dealing with this, so it is not all gloom and doom.