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Thank you for your thoughtful response; you make many good points. Most of what you are saying makes sense. But your first sentence embodies an attitude that I just cannot adopt in my thinking--that is, to "embrace" a chronic condition (or any bad situation). If I had a chronic condition, I would fight it as best I could, and try to go on with my life. So regarding the topic at hand, having spent many years "constructing" my life, to start to "deconstruct" it is extremely repugnant. Again, it is not specifically about material things (which are part of my life). I have a lifetime of good habits, so I don't feel that I need to improve "lifestyle." Of course we can all improve in many ways, but not necessarily to make wholesale radical change.

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You said, "If I had a chronic condition, I would fight it as best I could, and try to go on with my life." I agree absolutely, that is exactly what I have done with my chronic lung & pain conditions.

What I meant by "embracing" my condition was to seek expert counsel & treatment, make sensible adaptations, accept a level of risk, and get on with life. For example, I accept that I can no longer spend many hours in a day working in my gardens, so I simplify, I hire help, and I ignore a few weeds. I teach others from my lifetime of education & experience. I satisfy my desire for color and beauty by working on my fiber art & painting skills. I accept that can no longer hike or bike at altitude, but I can still do it in lower elevations. Or I can do it more slowly, appreciating beauty, photographing ideas for my artwork, chatting with friends.

Roberto's words at the beginning of this discussion, "It may impact how we embrace change and living conditions, including disease, and create a way to achieve contentment and balance, which is the essence of health" are at the heart of this concept. I have watched many people, on Connect & in my life, wear themselves out, put their lives on hold & fight chronic conditions that cannot be changed, only accepted. Instead the energy could have been devoted to accepting that their life has changed, and figured out how to make that work.

Perhaps nothing has crossed you path in life that necessitates change at this time. For you it might just be a concept to keep in mind for the future.

I moved recently from a lovely home in the country with a big meadow and wooded area where I could garden for the rest of my life with no close neighbors to offend. When my daughter was hit with a terrible post covid condition involving nerve pain and disability I moved to the suburbs where she and her husband live to help out a bit with running errands and caring for my grandson. It's been an adjustment. When I moved I got rid of a lot of things but not those most important to me..

Sadly things change with age. I used to take wonderful mountain hiking trips to other countries. Arthritis has stopped that. Now that I have close neighbors I have also altered my garden designs; no more wild meadows to attract neat bugs and birds. I can still use many of the same plants but in a tidier design. With less than an acre to work with I've had to change my style perhaps but I haven't "downsized" anything out of my life.

I wouldn't have moved to the suburbs unless I felt strongly that I couldn't with clear conscience stay in my country home. I would never have relocated, just because relatives thought it was a good idea. I seem to recall a useful saying-"The road to hell is paved with good intentions".