You're so right. That's how I feel about it as well.

When I was small I told my parents that I wanted to earn enough money to afford a house in which they could live with me so they would be independent and I would be there for help if they needed it. I never understood the care homes, they made me sick to my stomach and very sad.

I though was 'the weird/different one' (I never liked it when they said that because i was used to myself but later in life could see they were different from me) and my siblings did not do such things, nor did they want to accommodate my parents who themselves didn't want to move in with their children. There was no need, they were doing fine.
I offered to take in my mother after my father died but she didn't want to and preferred being in her own house. I am fine with that: it's all that matters, she should be in the best place for her.

I don't know which culture you come from but I have often felt out of place. As a child I really REALLY wanted to one day hear my parents admit I was adopted. But my mother insists I am theirs 😊 As a woman on the bus asked my mother if it was difficult to raise 'such an oriental child' my hopes went up. But alas, I was not oriental 😹

I never belonged in the culture I am in and suppose I am not the only one.
In some locations they set up homes for said elderly with students and immigrants; this way people get in touch with one another and feel they are part of society. Such a great initiative!