Welcome, @flashbackfcr. Food, digestion issues and recovering from pancreatectomy are things that fellow members @luckyone4321 @wrolsen @beachdog @kay2 @kyaeger @drileymn @buckslayer and @marvinjsturing know about first-hand either as patients themselves or caring for someone living with pancreatic cancer.

While we wait for others to offer tips and support for you and your husband, I think you might find some useful posts in these related discussions:
- Total Pancreatectomy https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/total-pancreatectomy/
– Help…need guidance on eating after whipple https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/help-need-guidance-on-eating-after-whipple/
- Life after Pancreatectomy: How was your recovery? https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/life-after-pancreatectomy/

No warning diarrhea and stressing over it don't go well together do they? Would wearing underwear for fecal incontinence make him feel more comfortable and confident? It could be helpful to reduce the stress and likely a temporary need.