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I am approaching the one year anniversary of my husband’s death from brain cancer on August 20th. I keep thinking that it will get better, but as time goes on so many things -even wonderful memories and photos - trigger an instant stab of hurt and sadness that is very hard to endure. I even think it is making me physically ill with gastric problems, insomnia, UTI, migraines, and a sinus infection. We were married for 60 years, so I guess I shouldn’t be surprised that the grief will be deep and long lasting, but I keep hoping the good memories will stop causing pain even if the bad ones never will. My family is wonderful at wanting to support me, but they are grieving too and I really don’t want to burden them with my pain or cause them worry about my health problems. I expect the only thing anyone can do is keep on keeping on, but, oh how I wish it it would get easier!
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I’m approaching the one year anniversary of losing my life partner - my best friend and favorite person in the world. I can’t keep some of the bad memories and horrible visions out of my head - even in my sleep. It just brings back my anger and guilt - and incredible sadness. Whoever said time heals all or at least makes it easier got it wrong, at least for me. Just when I think I’m doing okay something comes back to haunt me. I don’t think a day has passed that I don’t cry. Not sure it will ever change for me.
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@wendytrg- Anniversaries seem to really trigger all of the pain associated with losing someone. The depth of your grief is also a measure of the deep love that you have had for your husband. You are right, there is no time limit on the pain, but time should also be thought of as a friend. Because it gives you time to grieve and in order to get through this it will take time. Oh boy, does this sound loopy?
My heartfelt sympathies on the loss of your husband. I hope that the love of your family and for your husband will help you through this time. Share tears and the pain, the laughs and rough times. It will help!